Blogisode #24: Façades

Good evening ladies and gentlemen! How’s everybody doing tonight?

Before I get into this new Blogisode, let me just say that my reaction toward the content may come off as a rant, but believe me it’s not. Self-esteem is a serious disease claiming hundreds of lives a day, maybe thousands. I want to stress the message that no one can tell you how to live your life. Be the best YOU that you can be. Or have the next person tell YOU how to be like THEM for YOU! Did that sound confusing?? LOL!! Anyway, let’s get the show on the road!

It’s a common fact in society today that people feel the need to put on a façade to look more important to others. They would buy a $200 pair of sneakers just to gain attention, ignoring the fact that the rent of their one-bedroom apartment is $1600 a month. Choosing to eat lunch at an expensive restaurant to impress your co-workers? Why? As long as their salary is close the six-figures, you’ll be looked at the same as if you treated them to Burger King: “you’re not on their level.”

One of the keys to succeeding in life is for you to be comfortable in your own skin. Making personal changes is great, but as long as those changes reflect who you are or the person you hope to become. Why do adults feel the need to go to such lengths to be liked? Are we still in high school? Sheesh! Nobody told me! Where are my hoodies and hockey jerseys? LOL!

Listen. If you have to stay at home with your parents because you can’t afford to live on your own – if you have to wear the same pair of sneakers to get to work every day – if you have to think of fifty different ways to eat PB&J just to save money – then you do whatever you must to become a success! Sacrifices must be made in your lane of life to achieve the highest goal you may have set: being the best salesman, graphic artist, news reporter, or in my case, the best author. It takes patience, hard work, and dedication. As long as your bills are paid then who cares how people see you.

An image is just a picture. However, YOU are real! Wouldn’t you want to be praised for the great person you are instead of the character you pretend to be away from home? One bad performance from a great actor could remove them from the silver screen and spiral down to the realm of straight-to-DVD movies. If you have the longevity to act out this character you created for people to like you, then go on with ya bad self. I leave the acting to the professionals. You’ll always get me, in person or behind the keyboard. 100! All day, every day!

People who crave acceptance from others suffer from low self-esteem. Sure, they’re making the right moves in life, but why is it necessary to throw it in other’s faces? Is it necessary to take ten selfies in under a minute for ridiculous reasons: “this is me going to work,” “now I’m drinking coffee,” “oops, missed my train. Let me take more selfies in the meantime.” What do you plan to accomplish? Do you hope for a modeling agency to stumble onto your account and offer you a contract? If so, that’s fine. It’s good to dream. I just view upliftment as an act of encouragement and guidance rather than displaying narcissistic behavior.

Don’t be ashamed to say that you’re broke. You don’t have to dress like a bum, but there’s nothing wrong being seen as a hard worker, instead of some flash-in-the-pan showoff who only cares about gaining fans. My motto is: flashing money in the streets makes you a bigger target to be robbed.”

There are people in Puerto Rico who stealing food from supply trucks just to survive. Why is it when fools make money they immediately act like movies star, riding fancy cars and wearing rich clothes? Instead of investing money in a sports car – which you’ll be unable to drive in rush hour traffic anyway – why don’t you consider making a donation to those small corners of the world who can’t share the same luxuries that you take for granted?

One reason I stopped going to church was that the façade complex illustrated amongst the congregation. It was becoming a social club. Yes, hearing the word of God was wonderful, but I noticed they, too, were sporting the fancy suits, talking within their own groups, bragging about the expensive places they go to on their free time. Really? Here I thought my donations were used for the greater good. Then I realized: how was my money being used? Fair question. I mean, how do I know? I don’t. What I do know is how I feel. And what I felt was uncomfortable. So we left. The truth of the matter is you can honor God at church or at home and he’ll still love you no matter what, as long as you live to praise him, which goes beyond praying.

My point is, don’t let no-talented marks like the Kardashians make you feel less than what you’re worth; that you’re not pretty enough or less than a man or woman because you’re in debt. Don’t let these bigots on the news make you feel like you don’t belong in this country. Don’t let your financial status make you feel less loved than the person with the big bucks. And most of all – and I mean most of all – don’t ever put on a façade. If people can’t accept you for who you are then those people don’t need to be in your life. Please! Enjoy every day because you never know when the clock of life will stop. Go for your goals and dreams, but do it for you!

Happiness can’t be bought. Let the media whores do what they want to do, but that doesn’t mean we have to follow in their footsteps. I’d rather be smiling every day at home than to be loved by millions of strangers who I may never meet. Those fans you desperately crave won’t let you walk down the street in peace. You might even encounter a few stalkers in the process. While me, I know there are three individuals at home who love me for who I am, with or without a million dollars. And I unconditionally love them back. With all my heart.

Thank you for tuning in tonight. I hope my message came in loud and clear. Hopefully I’ve touched a few minds and hearts, letting them know that they are not alone in the struggle. I pray for all of you to find the sunshine on a cloudy day. Peace!

Jan

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One Reply to “Blogisode #24: Façades”

  1. I love your messages it gives a lot to think about. No I don’t think you are ranting I think you have a lot to say and you are saying it right!!!

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